Which love language do you understand the best? Here's what they say about me.
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The Five Love Languages
My primary love language is probably
Physical Touch
with a secondary love language being
Quality Time.
Complete set of results
Physical Touch: 10 Quality Time: 6 Words of Affirmation: 6 Acts of Service: 5 Receiving Gifts: 3
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Unhappiness in relationships, according to Dr. Gary Chapman, is often due to the fact that we speak different love languages. Sometimes we don't understand our partner's requirements, or even our own. We all have a "love tank" that needs to be filled in order for us to express love to others, but there are different means by which our tank can be filled, and there are different ways that we can express love to others.
The Five Love Languages
My primary love language is probably
Physical Touch
with a secondary love language being
Quality Time.
Complete set of results
| Physical Touch: | 10 | |
| Quality Time: | 6 | |
| Words of Affirmation: | 6 | |
| Acts of Service: | 5 | |
| Receiving Gifts: | 3 |
Information
Unhappiness in relationships, according to Dr. Gary Chapman, is often due to the fact that we speak different love languages. Sometimes we don't understand our partner's requirements, or even our own. We all have a "love tank" that needs to be filled in order for us to express love to others, but there are different means by which our tank can be filled, and there are different ways that we can express love to others.
Hi Rosalind. My name is John, and I have a particular interest in affirming love...understanding what authentic affirmation is....and sharing what fruit my lifelong pursuit of such knowledge has borne. There is an all too little known tandem of Christian psychologists whose collected work in this area holds value of breakthrough proportions. Their names are Dr.'s Anna Terruwe and Conrad Baars(deceased 1981). Dr. Baar's website will give the needy seeker great insight and blessing: conradbaars.com. This insight is nothing short of the root cause of that suffering referred to as the unaffirmed life. It unveils the true dynamics of why people live lives in bondage to a perpetual neediness for being loved as opposed to the fulfilling life of giving to others through affirming love. Before we speak a "love language", we must first possess the capacity to give it living content. Perhaps the greatest misunderstanding about loving another lies in confusing the desire to love with the capacity to love. Recognizing the need for love, exercising a willing desire to love, and engaging in all conceivable activities and expressions of loving another person DO NOT CONSTITUTE REAL LOVE. Love is a state of being that one comes into by first receiving from another who is in that state. We love by becoming conduits of a Presence who have been transformed by exposure, cooperation, participation, and communion with He Who is Love. These words are not some ethereal exercise in spiritual knowledge, but rather the root of truth from which springs real human development, maturity and wholeness. By exposure to authentic affirming love, we develop into mature and whole persons who having been recipients of Love, then become givers of love. John, the Disciple of love said, "We love Him, because He first loved us." (1st John 4:19) We cannot give what we have not first received. And we do not love simply because we want to or feel the need to. So many of our so-called 'expressions of love' are only counterfeit attempts to imitate what we do not possess(and in fact to procure what we so hunger for). For this reason we are often agonizingly frustrated, emotionally depleted, and bewilderingly defeated in our relationships....especially those in which we most expect to experience the exchange of authentic love.
My point in what may be considered a rather long-winded approach to the description of love and its affirming qualities is simply this: real love is always affirming and always imparts energy that enlargens the capacity to love in the one being loved. I can love, because I have been loved, because I have known Love, and have become love. The human heart knows and is enlivened by authentic love...it cannot be fooled nor healed by anything less. The mind may try to satisfy the heart by trusting in these empty substitutes, but that person is empty and screams all the more for acceptance, understanding and adoption. In our fallen world, lust has usurped the throne of love, and death masquerades as life. And Christians along with the lost of this world continue to buy into the lies, counterfeits, and deceptions of the world, the flesh, and the devil...especially regarding the meaning and source of love and relationship. Still, Jesus opens the door, unveils the eyes, and leads us back into the light of truth. We each have our part to play in exposing these lies and freeing their captives. My comments here are a small offering to that end.
Thank you, Rosalind for being willing to take a stand and be a light in the darkness. I appreciate your blog and your honesty. My heart yearns to bring hope and concrete help to others who have suffered throughout their lives as I have. The healing process is not easily endured, nor predictable in duration.....but the Companion along the way makes it worth everything it has asked so far. I have the sense that you are a kindred spirit and fellow traveler on this great journey.
"Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God. And we have known and believed the love that God hath to us. God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him." 1st Jn 4:7&16.